ADVERTISEMENT NO. : 4/2009, Name of the post: GRADUATE ENGINEER TRAINEE
Name of the Centre (for Written Examination) ______________________________________
(Choose any one from the centres of HYDERABAD, BANGALORE, NEW DELHI, CHENNAI, KOLKATTA & MUMBAI)
FULL NAME IN CAPITALS
( As per Matriculation certificate)
FATHER’S NAME :
SEX : MALE / FEMALE
DATE OF BIRTH & AGE (as on 30.06.2009) :
CATEGORY (GEN/SC/ST/OBC/PH) :
NATIONALITY : RELIGION :
TELEPHONE No. (With STD Code) and e-mail id, if any: ___________________________
ADDRESS FOR COMMUNICATION :
(in capital letters)
QUALIFICATIONS : ( Matriculation onwards)
Examination
Board/ University
Yr. of Passing
Class
Percen-
tage of
marks
Specialization/Branch
Matric/SSC
EXPERIENCE, if any (in chronological order):
Period
Name of the Organization
From
To
Post held/ Designation
Basic pay, Scale of pay & Total Salary drawn
Reasons for leaving
DD/Bankers cheque details: No.__________________, Date: ____________, Bank:_____________, Branch: ________
Details of relatives, if any, employed in ECIL:
Name, Designation & Division
Relationship
REFERENCES OF PERSONS IN RESPONSIBLE POSITION (NAME & ADDRESS)
1. 2.
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DECLARATION
I certify that the above information is correct and true to the best of my knowledge and belief. In the event of any information being found false or incorrect, action can be taken against me. Further declare that I have never been arrested/prosecuted and convicted by a Criminal Court or involved in any other case registered by the police.
DATE: SIGNATURE OF THE APPLICANT
Note: The application is liable for rejection, if the application is incomplete, not filled in the prescribed proforma and not furnished with the copies of certificates & testimonials in support of Qualification (including consolidated marks memo), age, caste (for SC/ST/OBC/PH) etc.
Electronics Corporation of India Limited, is a leading Public Sector Company in the area of Strategic Electronics with thrust on innovation & indigenization. A technology leader and pioneer, engineers at ECIL have opportunities to work in some of the most exciting national and international projects in Nuclear, Defence, Space, Security, Telecom, IT, Medical and e-governance sectors in the functional areas of Design & Development, Project execution, Engineering, Production, Testing & qualification, Marketing and maintenance. Core competencies include Automation & Control, Power Electronics & drives, SATCOM, DSP, Communication & networks, EW, Microwave & RF engineering, Mechanical & Structural design, Inertial systems & navigation, Hybrids, ASICS, VHDL, FPGA, Sensors, Actuators & Detectors, Embedded electronics, Real-time software etc. ECIL has close collaboration with national R&D laboratories and institutes and has been involved in dream projects such as Chandrayaan-I, LHC etc., pushing technology frontiers. ECIL is looking for dynamic and result-oriented persons for its Headquarters and Zonal /Branch/Site Offices located across India:
Name of the post
Upper age limit
as on 30.06.2009
Qualification
G Graduate Engineer Trainee – 131 posts
in the disciplines of ECE, EEE, E&I,
CSE, Civil & Mechanical [ SC-10; ST-07; OBC-19; UR-91 & PH-4 (2-OH & 2-HH) ]
25 years
First Class Engineering degree with minimum 60% marks in aggregate from AICTE approved Colleges/ Recognised Universities in the relevant discipline.
STIPEND: The selected candidates will undergo training for a period of one year on a consolidated stipend of Rs. 20,800/- p.m.(approximately). In addition to stipend, the other benefits admissible are Medical, Conveyance Reimbursement, Subsidised Transport and Canteen facility, PF etc., as per rules of the Corporation. On successful completion of the training, they will be appointed as Engineer (Contract) for 3 years. On successful completion of Contract appointment, they will be absorbed as Technical Officer in the scale of pay of Rs.16400-40500.
Method of Selection: The selection process will be through Written Test and Interview of short-listed candidates, based on the performance in written test. The written test will be held at Hyderabad, Bangalore, New Delhi, Kolkatta, Chennai & Mumbai. The written test date will be intimated separately by post to eligible candidates. No TA will be paid for attending the Written Test.
Relaxations: First Class in Engineering Degree is relaxed to Second Class with minimum 50% marks in aggregate for SC/ST candidates.
Age: Upper age limit is relaxable by 5 years for SC/ST, 3 years for OBC. In respect of PH candidates, belonging to SC/ST/OBC/Gen. categories, the upper age relaxation will be for PH-SC/ST-15 yrs; PH-OBC-13 yrs; & PH-Gen -10 years.
The selected candidates are required to execute an Indemnity & Surety Bonds for a period of 4 years (1 year as Trainee + 3 years as Engineer-Contract) for Rs.1,50,000/-.
GENERAL CONDITIONS:
1 Candidates applying for the above posts are required to forward a crossed Demand Draft/Bankers’ cheque for Rs.100/- (SC/ST/PH candidates are exempted) in favour of “ECIL” payable at Hyderabad.
2 Management reserves the right to decide on standards/criteria, depending on the response, to call for written test.
3 Incomplete Applications, without documentary proof and received after due date are liable for rejection.
4 Canvassing in any form will be a disqualification.
5 The above vacancy position may vary depending upon the needs of the Organisation.
6 Candidates may be required to work anywhere in India, depending on needs and discretion of Management.
ECIL will not be responsible for any postal delay/loss in transit in submission of application/document within specified time.
HOW TO APPLY:
Candidates fulfilling the requirements may apply only in the prescribed application form available on our website www.ecil.co.in furnishing full details of name of the Centre, name, date of birth, whether SC/ST/OBC/PH etc., fully supported with documentary proof, accompanied with a recent passport size photograph and DD/Bankers’ Cheque (as stated above) to the Deputy General Manager (Recruitment), Personnel Group, ECIL, ECIL (PO), Hyderabad-500 062. Last date for receipt of applications is 31.07.2009
ONLY INDIAN NATIONALS NEED APPLY.
Advt. No. 4/2009 DEPUTY GENERAL MANAGER (R)
Thursday, July 16, 2009
Accenture referal testing professionals
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In this time of volatility in world markets and in the global economy, we continue to seek and hire talent, through careful forethought. In the past, you have helped us recruit the best talent for Accenture, through Talent Scout, and now once again, you have an opportunity to refer your friends for the select job opportunities listed below.
Key Open Positions:
Job Description for performance testing skills Level: Sr. Systems Analyst (Associate Manager)
Mandatory skills:
Nice to have skills:
Level: Systems Analyst (Team Lead)
Mandatory skills:
Nice to have skills:
Level: Senior System Engineer (SSE) · Plan end-to-end Performance Testing. · Perform end-to-end performance testing · Test results analysis and bottleneck identification · Assist team members in executing performance tests. · Conduct technical trainings. · Prepare test plans and test reports · Exposed of performance testing methodology Mandatory skills: · Must be strong in Load Runner/ Rational Performance Tester/Silk Performer/ VSTS tools. Nice to have skills: · Experienced in multiple protocols. · HP certification · Scripting experience using PERL, Excel macros. · Programming knowledge in C, C++, Java, J2EE or .Net
Job description for Automation testing skills IBM RFT: · 4-6 years of automation experience with a minimum of 4 years of automation experience · Expert knowledge in IBM Rational Functional Tester test tool stack, integration with IBM-RQM · Experience in implementing automation frameworks (Keyword driven/functional decomposition) · Experience in conducting technical automation qualification and propose automation approach/strategy · Ability to lead a team of (5-10) automation engineers HP-QTP/BPT: · 4-6 years of automation experience with a minimum of 4 years of automation experience · Expert knowledge in HP Quick Test Professional test tool stack, integration with HP-Quality Centre · Experience in implementing automation frameworks (Keyword driven/functional decomposition) · Experience in conducting technical automation qualification and propose automation approach/strategy · Ability to lead a team of (5-10) automation engineers
How does one Refer??
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track ur mobile
Got an interesting fact to share. Now a days each one of us carry Hi Fi
Mobile devices and always fear that it may be stolen.
Each mobile carries a unique IMEI i.e International Mobile Identity No
which can be used to track your mobile anywhere in the world.
This is how it works!!!!!!
1. Dial *#06# from your mobile.
2.Your mobile shows a unique 15 digit .
3.Note down this no anywhere but except your mobile as this is the no
which will help trace your mobile in case of a theft.
4.Once stolen you just have to mail this 15 digit IMEI no. to
cop@vsnl.net
5.No need to go to police.
6.Your Mobile will be traced within next 24 hrs via a complex system of
GPRS and internet.
7.You will find where your hand set is being operated even in case your
no is being changed.
Mobile devices and always fear that it may be stolen.
Each mobile carries a unique IMEI i.e International Mobile Identity No
which can be used to track your mobile anywhere in the world.
This is how it works!!!!!!
1. Dial *#06# from your mobile.
2.Your mobile shows a unique 15 digit .
3.Note down this no anywhere but except your mobile as this is the no
which will help trace your mobile in case of a theft.
4.Once stolen you just have to mail this 15 digit IMEI no. to
cop@vsnl.net
5.No need to go to police.
6.Your Mobile will be traced within next 24 hrs via a complex system of
GPRS and internet.
7.You will find where your hand set is being operated even in case your
no is being changed.
Wednesday, July 8, 2009
Apartment for rent
a businessman met a beautiful girl and agreed to spend
the night with her for $500. They did their thing,
and, before he left, he told her that he did
secretary write a cheque and mail it to her, calling
the payment "RENT FOR APARTMENT."
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On the way to the office, he regretted what he had
done, realizing that the whole event had not been
worth the price. So he had his secretary send a cheque
for $250 and enclose the following typed note:
>>
"Dear Madam:
Enclosed find a cheque for $250 for rent of your
apartment. I am not sending the amount agreed upon,
because when I rented the place, I was under the
impression that:
#1 - it had never been occupied;
#2 - there was plenty of heat; and
#3 - it was small enough to make me feel cosy and at home.
However, I found out that:
#1 - it had been previously occupied,
#2 - there wasn ' t any heat, and
#3 - it was entirely too large."
Upon receipt of the note, the girl immediately
returned the cheque for $250 with the following note:
" Dear Sir:
#1 - I cannot understand how you could expect a
beautiful apartment to remain unoccupied indefinitely.
#2 - As for the heat, there is plenty of it, if you
know how to turn it on.
#3 - Regarding the space, the apartment is indeed of
regular size, but if you don ' t have enough furniture
to fill it, please do not blame the management.
So, Please send the rent in full or we will be forced
to contact your present landlady."
Accenture Recruits Siebel Professionals
Referrals Invited for Siebel Professionals!!!
In this time of volatility in world markets and in the global economy, we continue to seek and hire talent, through careful forethought. In the past, you have helped us recruit the best talent for Accenture, through Talent Scout, and now once again, you have an opportunity to refer your friends for the select job opportunities listed below.
Like before, your referrals could win you a bonus!
Key Open Positions:
Skill
Level
Experience
Location
Profile to be uploaded under
Siebel-Analytics
SSE
4 - 6 yrs
Mumbai
Siebel Analytics
Siebel-Analytics
TL
6 - 8 yrs
Bangalore
Siebel Analytics
Siebel-Configuration
SSE/TL/AM
4 - 10 yrs
Bangalore
Siebel Configuration
Siebel-Configuration
SSE/TL
4 - 8 yrs
Chennai
Siebel Configuration
Siebel-Enterprise Application Integration (eAI)
SSE
4 - 6 yrs
Chennai
Siebel EAI
Siebel-Enterprise Integration Management (EIM)
SSE/TL/AM
4 - 10 yrs
Bangalore
Siebel EIM
Siebel-Environment Management
AM
8 - 10 yrs
Bangalore
Siebel-Environment Management
Siebel-Integration
SSE
4 - 6 yrs
Bangalore
Siebel-Integration
How does one Refer??
Please visit https://idc.home.accenture.com/HR/Documents/CurrentOpening.xls to view the complete list of current open positions.
If your friend’s profile matches any of the mentioned requirements, log on to https://india.jobs.accenture.com/talentscout
Select the ‘Solutions workforce’ and upload your friend’s resume.
Once the profile is successfully uploaded – you would get an auto generated mail with a unique CID number for the candidate.
You can use the CID number to track the status of the referred candidate.
Regards
Talent Scout Team,
Delivery Centre for Technology in India
To preserve the strong professional reputation of the Company, shared by all employees, the Company independently verifies employment qualifications and references for all candidates for employment. We encourage all our employees to reinforce this message with the candidates they refer for opportunities within Accenture.
Please go through the Employee Referral policy available on the IDC portal – https://publishing.accenture.com/Policies/HR/RecruitingHiring/1075.htm
In this time of volatility in world markets and in the global economy, we continue to seek and hire talent, through careful forethought. In the past, you have helped us recruit the best talent for Accenture, through Talent Scout, and now once again, you have an opportunity to refer your friends for the select job opportunities listed below.
Like before, your referrals could win you a bonus!
Key Open Positions:
Skill
Level
Experience
Location
Profile to be uploaded under
Siebel-Analytics
SSE
4 - 6 yrs
Mumbai
Siebel Analytics
Siebel-Analytics
TL
6 - 8 yrs
Bangalore
Siebel Analytics
Siebel-Configuration
SSE/TL/AM
4 - 10 yrs
Bangalore
Siebel Configuration
Siebel-Configuration
SSE/TL
4 - 8 yrs
Chennai
Siebel Configuration
Siebel-Enterprise Application Integration (eAI)
SSE
4 - 6 yrs
Chennai
Siebel EAI
Siebel-Enterprise Integration Management (EIM)
SSE/TL/AM
4 - 10 yrs
Bangalore
Siebel EIM
Siebel-Environment Management
AM
8 - 10 yrs
Bangalore
Siebel-Environment Management
Siebel-Integration
SSE
4 - 6 yrs
Bangalore
Siebel-Integration
How does one Refer??
Please visit https://idc.home.accenture.com/HR/Documents/CurrentOpening.xls to view the complete list of current open positions.
If your friend’s profile matches any of the mentioned requirements, log on to https://india.jobs.accenture.com/talentscout
Select the ‘Solutions workforce’ and upload your friend’s resume.
Once the profile is successfully uploaded – you would get an auto generated mail with a unique CID number for the candidate.
You can use the CID number to track the status of the referred candidate.
Regards
Talent Scout Team,
Delivery Centre for Technology in India
To preserve the strong professional reputation of the Company, shared by all employees, the Company independently verifies employment qualifications and references for all candidates for employment. We encourage all our employees to reinforce this message with the candidates they refer for opportunities within Accenture.
Please go through the Employee Referral policy available on the IDC portal – https://publishing.accenture.com/Policies/HR/RecruitingHiring/1075.htm
Curing Cancer Naturally
1. Every person has cancer cells in the body. These cancer cells do not
show up in the standard tests until they have multiplied to a few
billion. When doctors tell cancer patients that there are no more cancer
cells in their bodies after treatment, it just means the tests are unable
to detect the cancer cells because they have not reached the detectable
size.
2. Cancer cells occur between 6 to more than 10 times in a person's
lifetime.
3. When the person's immune system is strong the cancer cells will be
destroyed and prevented from multiplying and forming tumours.
4. When a person has cancer it indicates the person has multiple
nutritional deficiencies. These could be due to genetic, environmental,
food and lifestyle factors.
5. To overcome the multiple nutritional deficiencies, changing diet and
including supplements will strengthen the immune system.
6. Chemotherapy involves poisoning the rapidly-growing cancer cells and
also destroys rapidly-growing healthy cells in the bone marrow,
gastro-intestinal tract etc, and can cause organ damage, like liver,
kidneys, heart, lungs etc.
7. Radiation while destroying cancer cells also burns, scars and damages
healthy cells, tissues and organs.
8. Initial treatment with chemotherapy and radiation will often reduce
tumor size. However prolonged use of chemotherapy and radiation do not
result in more tumor destruction.
9. When the body has too much toxic burden from chemotherapy and
radiation the immune system is either compromised or destroyed, hence the
person can succumb to various kinds of infections and complications.
10. Chemotherapy and radiation can cause cancer cells to mutate and
become resistant and difficult to destroy. Surgery can also cause cancer
cells to spread to other sites.
11. An effective way to battle cancer is to starve the cancer cells by
not feeding it with the foods it needs to multiply.
WHAT CANCER CELLS FEED ON:
a. Sugar is a cancer-feeder. By cutting off sugar it cuts off one
important food supply to the cancer cells. Sugar substitutes like
NutraSweet, Equal,Spoonful, etc are made with Aspartame and it is
harmful. A better natural substitute would be Manuka honey or molasses
but only in very sma ll amounts. Table salt has a chemical added to make
it white in colour. Better alternative is Bragg's aminos or sea salt.
b. Milk causes the body to produce mucus, especially in the
gastro-intestinal tract. Cancer feeds on mucus. By cutting off milk and
substituting with unsweetened soy milk, cancer cells are being starved.
c. Cancer cells thrive in an acid environment. A meat-based diet
is acidic and it is best to eat fish, and a little chicken rather than
beef or pork. Meat also contains livestock antibiotics, growth hormones
and parasites, which are all harmful, especially to people with cancer.
d. A diet made of 80% fresh vegetables and juice, whole grains,
seeds, nuts and a little fruits help put the body into an alkaline environment.
About 20% can be from cooked food including beans. Fresh
vegetable juices provide live enzymes that are easily absorbed and reach
down to cellular levels within 15 minutes to nourish and enhance growth
of healthy cells. To obtain live enzymes for building healthy cells try
and drink fresh vegetable juice (most vegetables including bean sprouts)
and eat some raw vegetables 2 or 3 times a day. Enzymes are destroyed at
temperatures of 104 degrees F (40 degrees C).
e. Avoid coffee, tea, and chocolate, which have high caffeine.
Green tea is a better alternative and has cancer-fighting properties.
Water-best to drink purified water, or filtered, to avoid known toxins
and heavy metals in tap water. Distilled water is acidic, avoid it.
12. Meat protein is difficult to digest and requires a lot of digestive
enzymes. Undigested meat remaining in the intestines become putrefied and
leads to more toxic buildup.
13. Cancer cell walls have a tough protein covering. By refraining from
or eating less meat it frees more
enzymes to attack the protein walls of cancer cells and allows the body's
killer
cells to destroy the cancer cells..
14. Some supplements build up the immune system (IP6, Flor-ssence,
Essiac, anti-oxidants, vitamins, minerals, EFAs etc.) to enable the
body's own killer cells to destroy cancer cells. Other supplements like
vitamin E are known to cause apoptosis, or programmed cell death, the
body's normal method of disposing of damaged, unwanted, or unneeded
cells.
15. Cancer is a disease of the mind, body, and spirit. A proactive and
positive spirit will help the cancer warrior be a survivor. Anger,
unforgiveness and bitterness put the body into a stressful and acidic
environment. Learn to have a loving and forgiving spirit. Learn to relax
and enjoy life.
16. Cancer cells cannot thrive in an oxygenated environment. Exercising
daily, and deep breathing help to get more oxygen down to the cellular
level. Oxygen therapy is another means employed to destroy cancer cells.
show up in the standard tests until they have multiplied to a few
billion. When doctors tell cancer patients that there are no more cancer
cells in their bodies after treatment, it just means the tests are unable
to detect the cancer cells because they have not reached the detectable
size.
2. Cancer cells occur between 6 to more than 10 times in a person's
lifetime.
3. When the person's immune system is strong the cancer cells will be
destroyed and prevented from multiplying and forming tumours.
4. When a person has cancer it indicates the person has multiple
nutritional deficiencies. These could be due to genetic, environmental,
food and lifestyle factors.
5. To overcome the multiple nutritional deficiencies, changing diet and
including supplements will strengthen the immune system.
6. Chemotherapy involves poisoning the rapidly-growing cancer cells and
also destroys rapidly-growing healthy cells in the bone marrow,
gastro-intestinal tract etc, and can cause organ damage, like liver,
kidneys, heart, lungs etc.
7. Radiation while destroying cancer cells also burns, scars and damages
healthy cells, tissues and organs.
8. Initial treatment with chemotherapy and radiation will often reduce
tumor size. However prolonged use of chemotherapy and radiation do not
result in more tumor destruction.
9. When the body has too much toxic burden from chemotherapy and
radiation the immune system is either compromised or destroyed, hence the
person can succumb to various kinds of infections and complications.
10. Chemotherapy and radiation can cause cancer cells to mutate and
become resistant and difficult to destroy. Surgery can also cause cancer
cells to spread to other sites.
11. An effective way to battle cancer is to starve the cancer cells by
not feeding it with the foods it needs to multiply.
WHAT CANCER CELLS FEED ON:
a. Sugar is a cancer-feeder. By cutting off sugar it cuts off one
important food supply to the cancer cells. Sugar substitutes like
NutraSweet, Equal,Spoonful, etc are made with Aspartame and it is
harmful. A better natural substitute would be Manuka honey or molasses
but only in very sma ll amounts. Table salt has a chemical added to make
it white in colour. Better alternative is Bragg's aminos or sea salt.
b. Milk causes the body to produce mucus, especially in the
gastro-intestinal tract. Cancer feeds on mucus. By cutting off milk and
substituting with unsweetened soy milk, cancer cells are being starved.
c. Cancer cells thrive in an acid environment. A meat-based diet
is acidic and it is best to eat fish, and a little chicken rather than
beef or pork. Meat also contains livestock antibiotics, growth hormones
and parasites, which are all harmful, especially to people with cancer.
d. A diet made of 80% fresh vegetables and juice, whole grains,
seeds, nuts and a little fruits help put the body into an alkaline environment.
About 20% can be from cooked food including beans. Fresh
vegetable juices provide live enzymes that are easily absorbed and reach
down to cellular levels within 15 minutes to nourish and enhance growth
of healthy cells. To obtain live enzymes for building healthy cells try
and drink fresh vegetable juice (most vegetables including bean sprouts)
and eat some raw vegetables 2 or 3 times a day. Enzymes are destroyed at
temperatures of 104 degrees F (40 degrees C).
e. Avoid coffee, tea, and chocolate, which have high caffeine.
Green tea is a better alternative and has cancer-fighting properties.
Water-best to drink purified water, or filtered, to avoid known toxins
and heavy metals in tap water. Distilled water is acidic, avoid it.
12. Meat protein is difficult to digest and requires a lot of digestive
enzymes. Undigested meat remaining in the intestines become putrefied and
leads to more toxic buildup.
13. Cancer cell walls have a tough protein covering. By refraining from
or eating less meat it frees more
enzymes to attack the protein walls of cancer cells and allows the body's
killer
cells to destroy the cancer cells..
14. Some supplements build up the immune system (IP6, Flor-ssence,
Essiac, anti-oxidants, vitamins, minerals, EFAs etc.) to enable the
body's own killer cells to destroy cancer cells. Other supplements like
vitamin E are known to cause apoptosis, or programmed cell death, the
body's normal method of disposing of damaged, unwanted, or unneeded
cells.
15. Cancer is a disease of the mind, body, and spirit. A proactive and
positive spirit will help the cancer warrior be a survivor. Anger,
unforgiveness and bitterness put the body into a stressful and acidic
environment. Learn to have a loving and forgiving spirit. Learn to relax
and enjoy life.
16. Cancer cells cannot thrive in an oxygenated environment. Exercising
daily, and deep breathing help to get more oxygen down to the cellular
level. Oxygen therapy is another means employed to destroy cancer cells.
Tuesday, July 7, 2009
Am I a Hindu? -- Uday Pai
Four years ago, I was flying from JFK NY Airport to SFO to attend a
meeting at Monterey, CA.
An American girl was sitting on the right side, near window seat.
It indeed was a long journey - it would take nearly seven hours!
I was surprised to see the young girl reading a Bible - unusual of
young Americans! (Later I came to know that September 11 has changed
mind-set of lot of US citizens. They suddenly turned religious, it
seemed.) After some time she smiled and we had few acquaintances talk.
I told her that I am from India.
Then suddenly the girl asked: "What's your faith?"
"What?" I didn't understand the question.
"I mean, what's your religion? Are you a Christian? Or a Muslim?"
"No!" I replied, "I am neither Christian nor Muslim".
Apparently she appeared shocked to listen to that.
"Then who are you…?"
"I am a Hindu", I said.
She looked at me as if she is seeing a caged animal.
She could not understand what I was talking about.
A common man in Europe or US knows about Christianity and Islam, as
they are the leading religions of the world today.
But a Hindu, what?
I explained to her - I am born to a Hindu father and Hindu mother.
Therefore, I am a Hindu by birth.
"Who is your prophet?" she asked.
"We don't have a prophet," I replied.
"What's your Holy Book?"
"We don't have a single Holy Book, but we have hundreds and thousands
of philosophical and sacred scriptures," I replied.
"Oh, come on…at least tell me who is your God?"
"What do you mean by that?"
"Like we have Yahweh and Muslims have Allah - don't you have a God?"
I thought for a moment. Muslims and Christians believe one God (Male
God) who created the world and takes an interest in the humans who
inhabit it. Her mind is conditioned with that kind of belief.
According to her (or anybody who doesn't know about Hinduism), a
religion need to have one Prophet, one Holy book and one God. The mind
is so conditioned and rigidly narrowed down to such a notion that
anything else is not acceptable. I understood her perception and
concept about faith. You can't compare Hinduism with any of the
present leading religions where you have to believe in one concept of
god.
I tried to explain to her: "You can believe in one god and he can be a
Hindu. You may believe in multiple deities and still you can be a
Hindu. What's more - you may not believe in god at all, still you can
be a Hindu. An atheist can also be a Hindu."
This sounded very crazy to her.
She couldn't imagine a religion so unorganized, still surviving for
thousands of years, even after onslaught from foreign forces.
"I don't understand…but it seems very interesting. Are you religious?"
What can I tell to this American girl?
I said: "I do not go to temple regularly. I do not make any regular
rituals. I have learned some of the rituals in my younger days. I
still enjoy doing it sometimes."
"Enjoy? Are you not afraid of God?"
"God is a friend. No- I am not afraid of God. Nobody has made any
compulsions on me to perform these rituals regularly."
She thought for a while and then asked: "Have you ever thought of
converting to any other religion?"
"Why should I? Even if I challenge some of the rituals and faith in
Hinduism, nobody can convert me from Hinduism. Because, being a Hindu
allows me to think independently and objectively, without
conditioning… I remain as a Hindu never by force, but choice." I told
her that Hinduism is not a religion, but a set of beliefs and
practices. It is not a religion like Christianity or Islam because it
is not founded by any one person or does not have an organized
controlling body like the Church or the Order, I added. There is no
institution or authority.
"So, you don't believe in God?" she wanted everything in black and white.
"I didn't say that. I do not discard the divine reality. Our
scripture, or Sruthis or Smrithis - Vedas and Upanishads or the Gita -
say God might be there or he might not be there. But we pray to that
supreme abstract authority (Para Brahma) that is the creator of this
universe."
"Why can't you believe in one personal God?"
"We have a concept - abstract - not a personal god. The concept or
notion of a personal God, hiding behind the clouds of secrecy, telling
us irrational stories through few men whom he sends as messengers,
demanding us to worship him or punish us, does not make sense. I don't
think that God is as silly as an autocratic emperor who wants others
to respect him or fear him." I told her that such notions are just
fancies of less educated human imagination and fallacies, adding that
generally ethnic religious practitioners in Hinduism believe in
personal gods. The entry level Hinduism has over-whelming
superstitions too. The philosophical side of Hinduism negates all
superstitions.
"Good that you agree God might exist. You told that you pray. What is
your prayer then?"
"Loka Samastha Sukino Bhavantu. Om Shanti, Shanti, Shanti,"
"Funny," she laughed, "What does it mean?"
"May all the beings in all the worlds be happy. Om Peace, Peace, Peace."
"Hmm…very interesting. I want to learn more about this religion. It is
so democratic, broad-minded and free…" she exclaimed.
"The fact is Hinduism is a religion of the individual, for the
individual and by the individual with its roots in the Vedas and the
Bhagavad-Gita. It is all about an individual approaching a personal
God in an individual way according to his temperament and inner
evolution - it is as simple as that."
"How does anybody convert to Hinduism?"
"Nobody can convert you to Hinduism, because it is not a religion, but
a set of beliefs and practices. Everything is acceptable in Hinduism
because there is no single authority or organization either to accept
it or to reject it or to oppose it on behalf of Hinduism."
I told her - if you look for meaning in life, don't look for it in
religions; don't go from one cult to another or from one guru to the
next.
For a real seeker, I told her, Bible itself gives guidelines when it
says "Kingdom of God is within you." I reminded her of Christ's
teaching about the love that we have for each other. That is where you
can find the meaning of life.
Loving each and every creation of the God is absolute and real.
'Isavasyam idam sarvam' Isam (the God) is present (inhabits) here
everywhere - nothing exists separate from the God, because God is
present everywhere. Respect every living being and non-living things
as God. That's what Hinduism teaches you.
Hinduism is referred to as Sanathana Dharma, the eternal faith. It is
based on the practice of Dharma, the code of life. The most important
aspect of Hinduism is being truthful to oneself. Hinduism has no
monopoly on ideas. It is open to all. Hindus believe in one God (not a
personal one) expressed in different forms. For them, God is timeless
and formless entity.
Ancestors of today's Hindus believe in eternal truths and cosmic laws
and these truths are opened to anyone who seeks them. But there is a
section of Hindus who are either superstitious or turned fanatic to
make this an organized religion like others. The British coin the word
"Hindu" and considered it as a religion.
I said: "Religions have become an MLM (multi-level- marketing)
industry that has been trying to expand the market share by
conversion. The biggest business in today's world is Spirituality.
Hinduism is no exception…"
I am a Hindu primarily because it professes Non-violence - "Ahimsa
Paramo Dharma" - Non violence is the highest duty. I am a Hindu
because it doesn't conditions my mind with any faith system.
meeting at Monterey, CA.
An American girl was sitting on the right side, near window seat.
It indeed was a long journey - it would take nearly seven hours!
I was surprised to see the young girl reading a Bible - unusual of
young Americans! (Later I came to know that September 11 has changed
mind-set of lot of US citizens. They suddenly turned religious, it
seemed.) After some time she smiled and we had few acquaintances talk.
I told her that I am from India.
Then suddenly the girl asked: "What's your faith?"
"What?" I didn't understand the question.
"I mean, what's your religion? Are you a Christian? Or a Muslim?"
"No!" I replied, "I am neither Christian nor Muslim".
Apparently she appeared shocked to listen to that.
"Then who are you…?"
"I am a Hindu", I said.
She looked at me as if she is seeing a caged animal.
She could not understand what I was talking about.
A common man in Europe or US knows about Christianity and Islam, as
they are the leading religions of the world today.
But a Hindu, what?
I explained to her - I am born to a Hindu father and Hindu mother.
Therefore, I am a Hindu by birth.
"Who is your prophet?" she asked.
"We don't have a prophet," I replied.
"What's your Holy Book?"
"We don't have a single Holy Book, but we have hundreds and thousands
of philosophical and sacred scriptures," I replied.
"Oh, come on…at least tell me who is your God?"
"What do you mean by that?"
"Like we have Yahweh and Muslims have Allah - don't you have a God?"
I thought for a moment. Muslims and Christians believe one God (Male
God) who created the world and takes an interest in the humans who
inhabit it. Her mind is conditioned with that kind of belief.
According to her (or anybody who doesn't know about Hinduism), a
religion need to have one Prophet, one Holy book and one God. The mind
is so conditioned and rigidly narrowed down to such a notion that
anything else is not acceptable. I understood her perception and
concept about faith. You can't compare Hinduism with any of the
present leading religions where you have to believe in one concept of
god.
I tried to explain to her: "You can believe in one god and he can be a
Hindu. You may believe in multiple deities and still you can be a
Hindu. What's more - you may not believe in god at all, still you can
be a Hindu. An atheist can also be a Hindu."
This sounded very crazy to her.
She couldn't imagine a religion so unorganized, still surviving for
thousands of years, even after onslaught from foreign forces.
"I don't understand…but it seems very interesting. Are you religious?"
What can I tell to this American girl?
I said: "I do not go to temple regularly. I do not make any regular
rituals. I have learned some of the rituals in my younger days. I
still enjoy doing it sometimes."
"Enjoy? Are you not afraid of God?"
"God is a friend. No- I am not afraid of God. Nobody has made any
compulsions on me to perform these rituals regularly."
She thought for a while and then asked: "Have you ever thought of
converting to any other religion?"
"Why should I? Even if I challenge some of the rituals and faith in
Hinduism, nobody can convert me from Hinduism. Because, being a Hindu
allows me to think independently and objectively, without
conditioning… I remain as a Hindu never by force, but choice." I told
her that Hinduism is not a religion, but a set of beliefs and
practices. It is not a religion like Christianity or Islam because it
is not founded by any one person or does not have an organized
controlling body like the Church or the Order, I added. There is no
institution or authority.
"So, you don't believe in God?" she wanted everything in black and white.
"I didn't say that. I do not discard the divine reality. Our
scripture, or Sruthis or Smrithis - Vedas and Upanishads or the Gita -
say God might be there or he might not be there. But we pray to that
supreme abstract authority (Para Brahma) that is the creator of this
universe."
"Why can't you believe in one personal God?"
"We have a concept - abstract - not a personal god. The concept or
notion of a personal God, hiding behind the clouds of secrecy, telling
us irrational stories through few men whom he sends as messengers,
demanding us to worship him or punish us, does not make sense. I don't
think that God is as silly as an autocratic emperor who wants others
to respect him or fear him." I told her that such notions are just
fancies of less educated human imagination and fallacies, adding that
generally ethnic religious practitioners in Hinduism believe in
personal gods. The entry level Hinduism has over-whelming
superstitions too. The philosophical side of Hinduism negates all
superstitions.
"Good that you agree God might exist. You told that you pray. What is
your prayer then?"
"Loka Samastha Sukino Bhavantu. Om Shanti, Shanti, Shanti,"
"Funny," she laughed, "What does it mean?"
"May all the beings in all the worlds be happy. Om Peace, Peace, Peace."
"Hmm…very interesting. I want to learn more about this religion. It is
so democratic, broad-minded and free…" she exclaimed.
"The fact is Hinduism is a religion of the individual, for the
individual and by the individual with its roots in the Vedas and the
Bhagavad-Gita. It is all about an individual approaching a personal
God in an individual way according to his temperament and inner
evolution - it is as simple as that."
"How does anybody convert to Hinduism?"
"Nobody can convert you to Hinduism, because it is not a religion, but
a set of beliefs and practices. Everything is acceptable in Hinduism
because there is no single authority or organization either to accept
it or to reject it or to oppose it on behalf of Hinduism."
I told her - if you look for meaning in life, don't look for it in
religions; don't go from one cult to another or from one guru to the
next.
For a real seeker, I told her, Bible itself gives guidelines when it
says "Kingdom of God is within you." I reminded her of Christ's
teaching about the love that we have for each other. That is where you
can find the meaning of life.
Loving each and every creation of the God is absolute and real.
'Isavasyam idam sarvam' Isam (the God) is present (inhabits) here
everywhere - nothing exists separate from the God, because God is
present everywhere. Respect every living being and non-living things
as God. That's what Hinduism teaches you.
Hinduism is referred to as Sanathana Dharma, the eternal faith. It is
based on the practice of Dharma, the code of life. The most important
aspect of Hinduism is being truthful to oneself. Hinduism has no
monopoly on ideas. It is open to all. Hindus believe in one God (not a
personal one) expressed in different forms. For them, God is timeless
and formless entity.
Ancestors of today's Hindus believe in eternal truths and cosmic laws
and these truths are opened to anyone who seeks them. But there is a
section of Hindus who are either superstitious or turned fanatic to
make this an organized religion like others. The British coin the word
"Hindu" and considered it as a religion.
I said: "Religions have become an MLM (multi-level- marketing)
industry that has been trying to expand the market share by
conversion. The biggest business in today's world is Spirituality.
Hinduism is no exception…"
I am a Hindu primarily because it professes Non-violence - "Ahimsa
Paramo Dharma" - Non violence is the highest duty. I am a Hindu
because it doesn't conditions my mind with any faith system.
Friday, July 3, 2009
Bosch recruitment drive
Dear Colleague,
We are planning the recruitment of a new batch of Graduate Apprentice for the year 2009-10. The first step of the selection process is the written test.
Accordingly we have scheduled a written test (covering verbal ability, analytical ability , Engineering knowledge) :
On : 12.07.09 (Sunday)
At : General canteen (Main Complex)
Bosch Limited
Hosur Road, Adugodi
Bangalore
Reporting Time: 12.00 pm
Duration of reporting formalities and written test : 5 hours
Results will be announced on the same day.
A)Requirements :
1. The eligible candidate for the written test should be an Engineer – BE / BTech
Mechanical and related branches : Mechanical / Automobile / Mechatronics /
Industrial Engineering & Management / Industrial Production /
Manufacturing Science & Engineering
Non-mechanical branches : Electrical & Electronics, Electronics & Instrumentation
2. With 60% and above aggregate in BE / BTech and good academic record (First Class through out & in the first attempt)
3. Only Engineering Batch 2005 - 2009 ( persons expecting 8th semester results may also apply)
4. Possess excellent analytical skills and Communication skills
5. Engineers with experince will not be eligible.
Hurry, share this with all your friends who are interested in undergoing The Apprenticeship Training with Bosch Limited !
B)Instructions to the eligible candidate :
1) The candidate should bring the following while reporting for the written test :
- Print out of the filled in Bosch Application form attached below :
- copy of their latest CV
- 3 recent photographs
- Photocopies of all marks cards / certificates / testimonials (10th, 12th, Dip / B.E / B.Tech / other professional qualifications)
- Printout of this e-mail.
If the candidate has participated in the selection process with Bosch in the last 6 months, they are not eligible to apply now.
2) The candidate should confirm presence for the written test by sending in the attached Application Form duly filled in to the mail id Bosch_hr@in.bosch.com .
3) Subject line of the mail should be Bosch Application Form - GA2009 only.
4) Reference code given in the "Position applied for" field in the application form should not be changed.
5) Last date for receipt of the filled in application form is 06.07.2009.
Please note :
1) Candidates must meet the above requirements and follow the instructions to be considered for the selection process.
2) Graduate Apprenticeship is a statutory training program as per The Apprentices Act, 1961.
The training is a for a period of ONE year only.
Kind Regards / Mit freundlichen Grüßen
HRL-M Team
Bosch_hr@in.bosch.com
We are planning the recruitment of a new batch of Graduate Apprentice for the year 2009-10. The first step of the selection process is the written test.
Accordingly we have scheduled a written test (covering verbal ability, analytical ability , Engineering knowledge) :
On : 12.07.09 (Sunday)
At : General canteen (Main Complex)
Bosch Limited
Hosur Road, Adugodi
Bangalore
Reporting Time: 12.00 pm
Duration of reporting formalities and written test : 5 hours
Results will be announced on the same day.
A)Requirements :
1. The eligible candidate for the written test should be an Engineer – BE / BTech
Mechanical and related branches : Mechanical / Automobile / Mechatronics /
Industrial Engineering & Management / Industrial Production /
Manufacturing Science & Engineering
Non-mechanical branches : Electrical & Electronics, Electronics & Instrumentation
2. With 60% and above aggregate in BE / BTech and good academic record (First Class through out & in the first attempt)
3. Only Engineering Batch 2005 - 2009 ( persons expecting 8th semester results may also apply)
4. Possess excellent analytical skills and Communication skills
5. Engineers with experince will not be eligible.
Hurry, share this with all your friends who are interested in undergoing The Apprenticeship Training with Bosch Limited !
B)Instructions to the eligible candidate :
1) The candidate should bring the following while reporting for the written test :
- Print out of the filled in Bosch Application form attached below :
- copy of their latest CV
- 3 recent photographs
- Photocopies of all marks cards / certificates / testimonials (10th, 12th, Dip / B.E / B.Tech / other professional qualifications)
- Printout of this e-mail.
If the candidate has participated in the selection process with Bosch in the last 6 months, they are not eligible to apply now.
2) The candidate should confirm presence for the written test by sending in the attached Application Form duly filled in to the mail id Bosch_hr@in.bosch.com .
3) Subject line of the mail should be Bosch Application Form - GA2009 only.
4) Reference code given in the "Position applied for" field in the application form should not be changed.
5) Last date for receipt of the filled in application form is 06.07.2009.
Please note :
1) Candidates must meet the above requirements and follow the instructions to be considered for the selection process.
2) Graduate Apprenticeship is a statutory training program as per The Apprentices Act, 1961.
The training is a for a period of ONE year only.
Kind Regards / Mit freundlichen Grüßen
HRL-M Team
Bosch_hr@in.bosch.com
Wednesday, July 1, 2009
increasing the logout time in websphere admin console
If you are using WebSphere Network Deployment (and you should be) edit this attribute in the following file on the Network Deployment machine:C:\Program Files\IBM\WebSphere\AppServer\profiles\Dmgr01\config\cells\NetworkDeploymentservernameCell01\applications\isclite.ear\deployments\isclite\deployment.xmlSet the attribute invalidationTimeout to the desired value, in minutes, where the maximum value is -1 (do not time out)
A Difficult Judgment
In a small town, a person decided to open up his Bar business, which was right opposite to a Temple. The Temple & its congregation started a campaign to block the Bar from opening with petitions and prayed daily against his business.
Work progressed. However, when it was almost complete and was about to open a few days later, a strong lightning struck the Bar and it was burnt to the ground.
The temple folks were rather smug in their outlook after that, till the Bar owner sued the Temple authorities on the grounds that the Temple through its congregation and prayers was ultimately responsible for the demise of his bar shop, either through direct or indirect actions or means.
In its reply to the court, the temple staff and devotes denied all responsibility or any connection that their prayers were reasons to the bar shop's demise.
As the case made its way into court, the judge looked over the paperwork at the hearing and commented: "I don't know how I'm going to decide this case, but it appears from the paperwork, we have a bar owner who believes in the power of prayer and we have an entire temple and its devotees that doesn't."
Work progressed. However, when it was almost complete and was about to open a few days later, a strong lightning struck the Bar and it was burnt to the ground.
The temple folks were rather smug in their outlook after that, till the Bar owner sued the Temple authorities on the grounds that the Temple through its congregation and prayers was ultimately responsible for the demise of his bar shop, either through direct or indirect actions or means.
In its reply to the court, the temple staff and devotes denied all responsibility or any connection that their prayers were reasons to the bar shop's demise.
As the case made its way into court, the judge looked over the paperwork at the hearing and commented: "I don't know how I'm going to decide this case, but it appears from the paperwork, we have a bar owner who believes in the power of prayer and we have an entire temple and its devotees that doesn't."
Two Line Romantic pharses
WASHINGTON POST COMPETITION ASKED FOR A TWO-LINE RHYME WITH THE MOST ROMANTIC FIRST LINE, BUT THE LEAST ROMANTIC SECOND LINE
This is the winner
My darling, my lover, my beautiful wife,
Marrying you screwed up my life.
I see your face when I am dreaming.
That's why I always wake up screaming.
Kind, intelligent, loving and hot;
This describes everything you are not.
I thought that I could love no other --
that is until I met your brother.
Roses are red, violets are blue, sugar is sweet, and so are you.
But the roses are wilting, the violets are dead, the sugar bowl's empty and so is your head.
I want to feel your sweet embrace;
But don't take that paper bag off your face.
I love your smile, your face, and your eyes --
Damn, I'm good at telling lies!
My love, you take my breath away.
What have you stepped in to smell this way?
My feelings for you no words can tell,
Except for maybe 'Go to hell.'
What inspired this amorous rhyme?
Two parts tequila, one part limeJ
This is the winner
My darling, my lover, my beautiful wife,
Marrying you screwed up my life.
I see your face when I am dreaming.
That's why I always wake up screaming.
Kind, intelligent, loving and hot;
This describes everything you are not.
I thought that I could love no other --
that is until I met your brother.
Roses are red, violets are blue, sugar is sweet, and so are you.
But the roses are wilting, the violets are dead, the sugar bowl's empty and so is your head.
I want to feel your sweet embrace;
But don't take that paper bag off your face.
I love your smile, your face, and your eyes --
Damn, I'm good at telling lies!
My love, you take my breath away.
What have you stepped in to smell this way?
My feelings for you no words can tell,
Except for maybe 'Go to hell.'
What inspired this amorous rhyme?
Two parts tequila, one part limeJ
Marraige Life Story
When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.
Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man!
That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; I had lost my heart to a lovely girl called Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, 30% shares of my company and the car. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly.
Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a months time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.. She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy.
Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Dew about my wife s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully. My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset..
I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest.. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me; she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart.
Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished. Then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more.. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death does us apart.
Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote:
'I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart'
The small details of our lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, the property, the bank balance that matters. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!
Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man!
That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; I had lost my heart to a lovely girl called Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!
With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, 30% shares of my company and the car. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly.
Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.
The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.
In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a months time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.
This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.. She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy.
Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.
I told Dew about my wife s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully. My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset..
I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.
On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest.. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.
On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.
She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me; she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart.
Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.
But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore.
She looked at me, astonished. Then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more.. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death does us apart.
Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote:
'I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart'
The small details of our lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, the property, the bank balance that matters. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!